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7.19.2019
Protect re-ignite soul log July 19th. Moralize. Moralize! that's it! Moralizing is what we have failed to do!!!
7.13.2019
Eureka! Listen to him this way. History's Einstein of joy, heaven, life from the soul.
12.22.2018
Autism. The blind pathologizing those .... >>>
Autism. The blind pathologizing those who have sight? Extraordinary insights from my friend. Empathy deficit? Deep empathy overload. Overloaded souls in a sick world.
To my friend who has children with autism I sent this video that you've probably seen, along with the following note. And my friend replied.
Depressed and Then Diagnosed With Autism, Greta Thunberg
I wrote: I so relate to this young person. I've often wondered if I am on the autistic Spectrum though that is supposed to involve profound lack of empathy and that does not seem to be my problem. Hugs
https://www.commondreams.org/news/2018/12/19/depressed-and-then-diagnosed-autism-greta-thunberg-explains-why-hope-cannot-save
My friend: ahhhhhh well that's the very very common and very very wrong assumption that so many make about those with autism...even folks who are supposedly experienced and trained make this mistake all too often....that those on the spectrum lack empathy. I have never seen this to be the case. Not in my children and certainly not in any of the other autistic folks I've been around of any age. If anything it is more suffering from a profound SURPLUS of empathy and being near paralyzed by it that is far more typical. And I read more and more articles that back up this more radical view.
It is more a lack of empathy on the part of the caregivers and the researchers in my opinion that leads them to this very wrong conclusion. Because they fail so utterly to understand the motivations and reactions of these unique individuals. Because how could they understand? Their brains are not wired at all the same.
Here's an example. When my child was in 2nd grade he got suspended and I was called down to the office to school for a "very serious" incidence of my child apparently "BULLYING" another child. I was shocked, flabbergasted and appalled that his teachers and administrators at the school so utterly failed to see who my child is and what he is capable of. So I went to the school and listened to all the things they accused my child of. Here was the tale: there was another student who was having a hard time, crying, throwing a tantrum, apparently inconsolable. and while the teachers and "responders" were trying their hardest to contain the situation, My child was absolutely incapable of following the instructions all the other students were given to ignore what was going on and get back to work. What /they/ saw was that my child walked over and started laughing in close proximity to the boy. In defiance of their orders. So they interpreted that as malicious, as him laughing AT the boy and trying to make things worse. Which somehow escalated into him being a bully. So I kept quiet and listened as they all scrambled to roll out this story about my son that not a single bone in my body felt was true. When they concluded I said, well, what did my child tell you happened when you asked him? And they all stopped and looked at each other and said, well, we didn't ask him. We just sent your child to the office for disobeying and making everything worse for everyone. Your child was being a BULLY they insisted.
So I said, did my child cause the student to be sad? or upset? No, no your child didn't do that. I said, okay well my child is in the next room, go ask my child. So my child came in and looked red and ashamed and vulnerable and sad and I said, can you tell me why you laughed when that boy was having a hard time? And my child started crying and said through his tears, "I was laughing because the teachers told us that laughter was the best medicine for sadness, so I wanted to go over and cheer him up"
You could have heard a pin drop. I smiled and looked at my child and said, "of course you did honey, thank you, that's what I thought. You need to know that most people didn't understand that's what you were trying to do, and that most people here don't think the way you do, so you may have to occasionally explain to them what you're doing so they understand."
So they let my child go back into the other room. And I stared them down and said, okay, so first you're going to tear up that piece of paper that uses the word BULLY that you want me to sign and put in my child’s permanent record. And then you're going to find a way to apologize to my my child for traumatizing him over my child’s misguided attempts to help a friend in need. And then you're going to let my child get back to class and learn some stuff rather than punish my child for giving a fuck.
ANYWAYS, they did all the things I asked. And my child has been treated and responded to differently ever since. They now understand that my child is NOT even capable of lying and if anything is more likely to get in trouble by confessing to doing things my child thinks maybe shouldn't have even when nobody is looking for someone to blame. They also understand that my child’s heart, even if actions are awkward and confused because of difficulty connecting with and understanding how to interact with neurotypical folks, is in the right place. It's gotta be so frustrating and challenging for my child when I'm not there to help translate for or advocate for him, but my child's getting better at doing that all the time.
James, I'd say, there's a pretty strong chance you are on the higher functioning end of the autism spectrum. I know that I very likely am. It's just that being female for some reason makes the symptoms different, less severe, than it can present in males. I suffer greatly at times from an excess of empathy. It's crippling, if you look at it in a way...but in other ways it's enormously liberating, because I can see and understand things at a level so many others seem utterly incapable of. Fascinating, really...
Thank you for sharing this :) I love reading stories of children standing up to asshole adults Heart.
My friend provided some of the research and I found a third piece easily.
https://www.thedailybeast.com/a-radical-new-autism-theory
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/aspergers-alive/201303/guide-reporting-autism-theory-mind-empathy
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/out-the-darkness/201705/is-autism-really-empathy-disorder
The blind Society pathologizing those who can see.
PS. What a tremendous contribution from my friend, and personally I find it extremely Illuminating on my own life. A shallow empathy cripple am I, but deep empathy, not so much. For much of my years I yearned for the reverse. But for decades now I have understood it as my wealth. My soul. My life. Thank goodness it was never the reverse.
7.21.2015
***** I was cursed with being born materially wealthy and continued materially wealthy until about 15 years ago when I deliberately chose.....
***** I was cursed with being born materially wealthy and continued materially wealthy until about 15 years ago when I deliberately chose the path of material poverty - solidarity with the neediest in my global family,brotherhood Loving, Chrisylikeness, Waging Loving, Truth Force .... I wouldn't go back for anything in the world. I finally left the life of abject poverty of the Spirit for one of infinite wealth of the Spirit. Every second of my life now I am laughing all the way to the bank. I pity, I deeply pity with every cell in my body, the all but one in a million fools that are yearning for, are seeking, material well being, thereby murdering, trashing, destroying, abandoning, fleeing... their solidarity with all of humanity, with all of creation leaving their one and only true family behind. They are eating sand.
5.30.2015
***** ( I have rarely ever felt so identified) Loving & Understanding an Empath. Alex Myles Via Alex Myles on May 21, 2015.....
2.05.2015
Nd. Only those who live with great passion live at all.
11.05.2014
pic. For my entire adulthood I've been considered a dour, boring, workaholic grind. (Prior to that... just... boring.) What such onlookers don't realize, tragically, is that by devoting to causes worth my life, I have a level of Joy, Passion, Vitality, Spiritual Nirvana... that they can't fathom, will tragically never have (despite my unending efforts to show the way), that dwarf's the gratification that they've found doing it our sick culture's way.
8.12.2014
nd. I must at some point study the research on this, but my strong hunch is that wealth celebrity fame are major contributors to depression. Every single penny that we have beyond our basic needs is a measure of our seperation from our human family, our reason for being, especially our neediest human kin. I have felt the deepest regard, love, awe for Robin throughout my life, this miracle of a man. I wish with all of my heart that he had discovered that radical service of the least of these was his cure, the joy that surpasses all suffering .
9.03.2013
***** nd 'Prostituting (M or F, selling yourself for wrong purposes), Slavery (wrking literally to survive) - the two types of jobs now available in our sOCIETY. [The exception proves, testifies to, attests to, makes obvious, the rule.] Un, this is a big problem. MEANINGFUL WORK IS THE GREATEST OF ALL HUMAN NEEDS. THE GREATEST OF ALL HUMAN NEEDS.
8.14.2013
***** Einstein: "True religion is real living; living with all one’s soul, with all one’s goodness and righteousness."
2.21.2013
Tolstoy: "To say you cannot make an effort to keep from doing what is wrong is the same as admit ting you are not a human being but an animal or a lifeless object. Humans know that it is within our power to make an effort....(more)"
from doing what is wrong is the same as admit
ting you are not a human being but an animal or
a lifeless object. Humans know that it is within
our power to make an effort.
Every religion teaches us that all our life is
an effort, progressing from the basic animal stages
to the higher life of the spirit.
2.15.2013
nd 'Sorokin (massive genius) suggests the category 'Heroic Genius of Loving.' I can't believe it. We ALL are Born to be that. Jesus, King, Gandhi... thought so. Me too.' Loving
nd ' "Donkey Body" - Francis of Assisi thought of his, that way. Me too now, thank Goodness (God). My Avatar - nothing more, nothing less, nothing else. The Christ Spirit, Loving, knows nothing other than this, ever. We are here to Serve our Neediest, never to serve the avatar.' Loving
2.10.2013
***** nd 'Ushering more Loving into the world: The Sole Healthy, Divine, Joyful purpose of Every Breath.' Loving
Ways and Power of Love [EPUB, PDF] P. Sorokin - Harvard
"GOSPEL IN BRIEF," Tolstoy, Leo