Nearly everyone I have cared deeply for in my life has separated themselves from me now. I feel nothing but deep happiness for their doing so. I thought I could do much good in their life. I was correct in theory, and entirely incorrect in practice.
You can be the water for a horse that is dying of thirst but you cannot make him drink.
I find it surprising that I feel so deeply glad for them all, separating themselves from me, but I do. They wasted so much time. There was so much useless grief. No, it is not my fault. It is not their fault. Polar opposites may wish to join, but they are polar opposites and some force greater than themselves would be required to make that possible.